Many of us believe that we are not enough – some of us believe we are ‘too much’. The fact remains that we feel like we’re lacking in some way. This feeling of lack leads to poor self-esteem. People who believe that they are not enough often feel like outsiders and as if their feelings are unique. This is a fallacy. At one point during our lives, most of if not all of us have thought that we were not enough.

British hypnotherapist Marisa Peer has been working with people for several decades. The British Peer contends that most if not all of our problems stem from the concept of not being enough. In the Your Own Soulmate (YOS) protocol, we address this issue and encourage cultivating the concept of being enough. It has so many benefits for our mental health and wellness.

When we believe we are enough, we do not feel lack. We feel our personal power and step into it. We can transform our lives by transforming how we think about ourselves. Perception is everything and if we perceive and believe we are enough, beautiful things can happen in our lives.

As a woman who has often felt as though she were not enough, I can tell you that this concept was a bitter pill to swallow at first. I resisted it strongly. In fact, I ignored it entirely for most of my life thinking that I would never measure up or be good enough for others to love and accept me as I was. I did mental, emotional and, in some instances, physical gymnastics to act as if I were good enough. I didn’t want others to get to know the real me because, if they did, they would not like me.

I did not like myself.

Yes, I am ashamed to admit that I didn’t like myself very much for a very long time – and, on occasion, I still slip into that negative head space. I am not proud of it but feel I would be disingenuous if I did not share my struggle with you.

When I first listened to Marisa Peer’s video, “The Power of I Am Enough” – check it out on YouTube here – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYE0J-rMj-c – I was blown away. She mentions how movie actors and even Olympic athletes she worked with had struggled with this concept. I was flabbergasted to say the least. Upon her suggestion, I programmed the words, “I AM ENOUGH” into my phone to flash up at me three times a day – at 8am, 2pm and 8pm. Each time, I looked at the words, I repeated them out loud to myself (whenever possible), three times each. Over the course of several weeks, I began to feel as if I were enough, and I found myself feeling much better in my day to day life.

I have shared this concept with hundreds of my clients. They are always taken aback by the concept. Many understand inherently that this is true. Some are not ready to admit that this is a problem for them. Either way, the task of programming the phone with the phrase and repeating it multiple times a day does seem to help improve their self concepts as it did mine.

I would love to work with you in a YOS class, beginning soon, or one-on-one. Please reach out to me at dcgoodson@gmail.com for more information. I look forward to hearing from you.